Hypnosis takes you to a natural trance state, similar to those we enter into many times a day, such as daydreaming, being engrossed in a book or being wrapped up in our own thoughts. It is simply a state of awareness where our concentration is internally focused. You won’t go to sleep or become unconscious. You don’t have to be relaxed to be hypnotised, simply internally focussed.
What is Hypnotherapy?
Hypnotherapy is a form of therapy that uses hypnosis as a tool to quickly and effectively ease or eradicate an issue. Our mind works on two levels: conscious and subconscious. Our conscious mind makes decisions, learns new techniques (e.g. tying shoelaces, using new software) and beliefs about running our life (e.g. standing in the road is dangerous). Then, once learnt, they are locked away in our subconscious, so we don't have to think about them constantly.
Thus, your subconscious mind controls your habits, emotional responses and beliefs. Unfortunately, some of these habits/beliefs are no longer helpful (I must eat everything on my plate, even if I'm full/ cake makes me feel better when I'm sad). It can be very hard to change these habits and beliefs, but once you are hypnotized, it's as if a secret door has been opened and your subconscious allows changes to be made. Through hypnosis, you allow the hypnotherapist to directly communicate with your subconscious mind, which will respond more quickly to suggestions for change, than attempting to do it by will power alone.
Will you hypnotise me as part of your program?
In general, I use a mixture of NLP and hypnotherapy. I also supply hypnotherapy CDs/MP3s for reinforcement. NLP techniques are as effective as hypnotherapy, quicker to use and you can learn to use yourself. For weight-loss, some clients request the hypno-gastric band, where they believe a gastric band has been fitted and their stomach is smaller - I am a licensed Hypno-Gastric Band practitioner.
What if I don't agree with these suggestions?
We will discuss and agree any suggestions beforehand If at any time you don’t feel comfortable you can terminate the hypnotherapy.
Will I say or do anything I wouldn't normally do?
No. A hypnotherapist cannot make you say or do anything that is outside of your morals or beliefs.
Can I be hypnotized to say or do things against my will?
No, a hypnotherapist doesn’t control you. You can open your eyes and leave whenever you wish. Hypnotherapy is a collaboration between the hypnotherapist and the client.
Could I get stuck?
No. This is impossible. Even if the hypnotherapist left the room you would return to a normal state in a short while, just as you do when you have had a daydream.
Am I aware of what is happening?
Yes. You will be aware of what is happening during hypnosis. Afterwards you may remember all of what was said. However, some people report forgetting some of the experience as it was simply nicer to just enjoy being so relaxed.
Will I become dependent on the hypnotherapist?
No. Hypnotherapy is a collaboration between the hypnotherapist and client working through problems and issues.
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NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Neuro refers to your neurology; Linguistic refers to language; programming refers to how that neural language functions. In other words, learning NLP is like learning the language of your own mind!
Let’s make this simpler with an example: Have you ever tried to communicate with someone who didn’t speak your language, and they couldn’t understand you? The classic example of this is when someone goes out to a restaurant in a foreign country and they think they ordered steak, but when the food shows up, it turns out they actually asked for chicken.
This is the kind of relationship that most of us have with our own unconscious mind. We might think we are “ordering up” more money, a happy, healthy relationship, peace with our family members, and maintaining a healthy lifestyle… but unless that’s what showing up, then something is getting lost in translation and it's a very common problem. Our conscious mind thinks it's in charge, but actually a huge amount of subconsciously stored attitudes, beliefs and habits are running our lives, often without us even realizing it.
For example, what happens if you say to yourself: 'I mustn't eat cake today.' Just keep repeating that to yourself - do you find that all you can think about is cakes in all their forms? I can already see a chocolate cake covered in cream and I'm getting sooo hungry for it! This ilustrates two useful areas that an NLP Coach can help you address (amongst a myriad of others):
1> Your subconscious doesn't hear negatives (it ignores the 'mustn't'), so all it's focussing on is the cake! Thus, we always talk and set goals in positives not negatives. (Next time you nag your kids, tell them what they should be doing rather than what they shouldn't be doing!).
2> To your subconscious, your imaginaton is more real than reality - notice how you can see the details of your cake, covered in chocolate, cream, sprinkles or whatever your particular cake fantasy is? And now you can taste the wonderful flavours and textures on your tongue? So, using NLP and your wonderful imagination, I would help you to change your desires to your advantage to get the results that you want in any area of your life.
In NLP, we have a saying: the conscious mind is the goal setter, and the unconscious mind is the goal getter. Your unconscious mind is not out to sabotage you, it’s out TO GET FOR YOU whatever you want in life. However, if you don’t know how to communicate what you want properly, it will keep bringing chicken instead of steak, or make you desire cakes instead of salads!.
In fact, go ahead right now and think if there was one thing you could change, one habit you could break, what would it be?
Eating a whole bag of cookies or tub of ice cream in one sitting?
To stop sitting, slumped in front of the TV all evening?
Wanting to exercise, but rarely managing it?
Whatever the problem, your unconscious mind only does that because it thinks that’s what you want. You may have limiting beliefs about yourself or the world that are stopping you and you probably aren't even aware of them. These are like computer programs running in your mind, possibly since you were very young, that are ruling your life.
Neuro-Linguistic Programming is like a user’s manual for the brain, and working with an NLP Coach is like learning how to become fluent in the language of your mind so that the ever-so-helpful “server” that is your unconscious will finally understand what you actually want out of life.
NLP is the study of excellent communication–both with yourself, and with others. It was developed by modelling excellent communicators and therapists who got results with their clients. NLP is a set of tools and techniques, but it is so much more than that. It is an attitude and a methodology of knowing how to achieve your goals and get results.
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The first aim of a coach is to help the client set a clear and realistic goal. Often clients tell me what they don't want, but until you know EXACTLY what you do want, you won't be able to work out how to get there. Also, we need to uncover what's stopped you from attaining the goal in the past. There will be both conscious and unconscious obstacles.
The coach is there to help the client use the resources they already have. The paradox is this: if the client already has everything they need to succeed, why do they need a coach? Working alone, many people get stuck in the same old ways of thinking. Faced with a new challenge, it can be hard to tell the best way to approach it. It might be difficult to break out old habits, or the thinking process might get into an endless circle of non-productive worrying.
The job of a coach is to provide a process to help the client move forward in his/her thinking. This means listening and asking the right questions to help the client clarify her own thoughts, also providing a framework to ensure that a new idea is considered from all useful angles, such as when goal-setting. Sometimes it means taking a systematic approach to overcoming a mental block.
If the client is stressed or dealing with the results of major changes, it can mean guiding the client through a process to release negative emotions and restore the mind to a resourceful state.
Often, coaching works with behaviour patterns that are normally outside of conscious awareness. Anything you can do really well, you can do without thinking. Unfortunately, there are also lots of things we do less well, that we also do without thinking!
Of course, I’m talking about coaching where the coach has the full range of NLP tools and techniques to draw on. NLP is an excellent addition to any coach’s skills, because it actually enables the client to re-wire their thinking. It creates new neurological pathways in the brain.
The more of this kind of coaching a client participates in, the more the mind is re-trained to use the processes unconsciously to resolve issues before the client is consciously aware of them. The key to success is nearly always in the unconscious habits.
The aim of coaching is to replace habits that lead to stress and failure with habitual processes that lead to success and satisfaction.
And the real value of coaching at the unconscious level? The client does not have to remember to do anything different, there is no fighting against natural inclinations, often clients forget that they ever had a mental block in the first place!
Coaching is a relationship between a coach and a client that enables the client to access the resources they need to succeed and to achieve their full potential.
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Mindfulness is the basic human ability to be fully present, aware of where we are and what we’re doing, and not overly reactive or overwhelmed by what’s going on around us.
Mindfulness is the latest buzzword in the wellness community — and for good reason. Not only can you use mindfulness to boost empathy, sleep better, and reduce your stress levels, you can also use it to better your relationship with food. Mindful eating is a real practice, one that can help shape your body as much as it shapes your eating philosophies. Studies show that eating mindfully is a great aid to weight loss.
I incorporate mindfulness into my program as it's extremely powerful at changing your many habits. For example, for weight loss reported benefits include:
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What is CBT?
Cognitive behavioural therapies, or CBT, are a range of talking therapies based on the theory that thoughts, feelings, what we do and how our body feels are all connected. If we change one of these we can alter the others.
When people feel worried or distressed we often fall into patterns of thinking and responding which can worsen how we feel. In these situations many people reach for comfort foods or get very stressed, which makes them hungrier. CBT works to help us notice and change problematic thinking styles or behaviour patterns so we can feel better.
CBT has lots of strategies that can help you in the here and now. To read personal accounts on a variety of topics from people who have experienced CBT, go to the BACP website here.
CBT has a good evidence base for a wide range of beaviours in adults, older adults, children and young people. This research has been carefully reviewed by the National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence (NICE), who provide independent, evidence-based guidance for the NHS on the most effective ways to treat disease and ill health.
To find out more about how CBT works and watch some videos, please follow this link.
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Weight Loss Tips
On this page I will be writing weight loss tips from the 5 principles of my program to get you set on the right track. Remember not all approaches work for everyone. This page is currently under construction, as I have just relaunched my new website. If you visit it regularly, you will find more articles.
Shift Weight Without Going Down The Gym
How To Shift Weight Without Going Down The Gym
Get up every 30-60 minutes.– yes that’s it! SITTING IS KILLING US and making us fat.
One of the earliest studies into heart disease in the 1950’s compared bus conductors and bus drivers – bus drivers had twice the risk of developing heart disease, because they were sitting down.
It’s not just the amount of time we sit, but the amount of time we sit CONTINUOUSLY – Another recent study of 70 healthy adults asked them to sit for 9 hours. Every few hours they had to eat and their blood sugar and insulin levels were measured. (Sugar is converted into fat). Then, it was repeated, but this time they got up every 30 minutes and walked around a bit. The results? Just by getting up and moving a little, they reduced their blood sugar levels by 39% and insulin levels by 26%.
Another recent study of 800,000 people found that those with a sedentary life style had twice the likelihood of developing type 2 diabetes and of dying from a heart attack or stroke.
Many of us spend 8 hours upwards just sitting. So, whether you’re at home in front of the TV/laptop or at work – get up and move every 30 minutes. Get an app with an alarm, set a timer in another room, get up in advert breaks – get a strategy! Take up hobbies, like gardening, dancing, yoga but make sure it's fun. KEEP WATCHING THIS PAGE FOR MORE WEIGHT LOSS ADVICE.
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In their book 'Why Diets Fail', John Talbott and Nicole Avena say that:
'We shouldn't wholly blame ourselves when we crash out of a diet, partly because: Just being on a diet sets you up for failure. Saying that you are going on a diet implies that you will come off said diet at some point; you just need to tough it out for a bit and then you can get back to normal – in other words, consuming more calories than you expend. Long-term results do not this way lie.
There is plenty of evidence that quick-fix approaches to weight loss will never solve the problem: in fact, they are more likely to make you fatter. A review of 31 long-term dieting studies showed that most people who diet actually end up heavier and that:
'Evidence suggests that repeatedly losing and gaining weight is linked to cardiovascular disease, stroke, diabetes and altered immune function.'
One possible explanation is that hormonal changes resulting from restrictive diets mess with our appetites. An Australian study in 2011 showed that hormone levels had still not normalised a full year after its subjects' diets. 'Leptin [a hormone that regulates appetite] falls and ghrelin [a hormone that stimulates appetite] rises after weight loss,' says its author, Joseph Proietto.
Participants in a Columbia University study, who had dieted to shed 10% of their body weight, and were therefore low in leptin, were presented with a parade of foods while hooked up to an fMRI scanner, which looks at brain activity. It showed they were responding to the foods with the emotional parts of their brains. They were then given leptin, and their frontal "executive" lobes regained control.'
Set Yourself up for Success: Dump The Dieting for good and Studies show that eating mindfully is a great aid to weight loss TODAY